By Bad Seed
My Grandparents chose to love each other when they met as teenagers, and then, they chose to love each other every part of every day, through the Great Depression,
through absence during war, child rearing, work, illnesses... Life.
Finding TRUE love? They met... And That was it. Again, the true love part was a daily choice whether either was as attractive or as exciting as the day they met.
True love depends on each person, not just the one you find or the one that finds you.
In other words, Love is a Choice, because we are not 110% lovable 24 hours a day.
True love is when each person sees that real life is not like a romance movie script
True love is accepting the fact of real life, which brings creative challenges that, with the choice to love, can increase attraction.
Popular novels, songs, shows, movies... Each have scripts that are no doubt, inspired. The talented people that write and act, the hundreds or thousands of people that are the list of credits at the end of a movie - from the accountants to the doctors to the musicians and screenwriters -
They work on projects that, as finished masterpieces, may often have coincidental similarities to your definition of romance and the most often undefined and over-used phrase... "true love"
Again, the credits behind movies, books, shows and songs... include a lot of people. Why, because such productions are intentionally crafted to touch our deepest self.
So, they are edited for perfection, music and effects and colors and thousands of other variables are used to enhance the dreamy, valium-drip state which translates to the vision of what love should be like
The scenes like magic, seem to shape the articles, the messages, and the hope or expectation seems to be right person will surprise you
In front of you, saying the most clever words, appearing right there, with presence, grooming, body language and confidence that is tailor made for you, and beyond your wildest dreams,
A person that is doing everything that brings bliss to you, every day of your life.
These elegant tapestries perfected by hundreds or thousands of people, they sometimes are called fairytales or fantasies ( both are f words ) for a reason. A fantasy is a fantasy, because it is not real.
Then, the absence of permanent fairytale existence becomes a deal breaker. Is that true love?
People age differently, so what if the one you truly love seems less fun than you are, later on, years along the true love path?
Finding true love is finding within us the ability to love that one person every day that you see in the best and worst moments on a planet called "real life" ...
This can be difficult though, when, consistently, you go there almost every day and it's so exciting,
And there, others are much more charming than the true love that awaits at home or in the other room.
Maybe you're not in the movies, but Your stage is your work place, it's the restaurant you went to, it's facebook, you know where and what that stage is in your life.
It's where you see glimpses of the best part of people's lives, not the whole, vivid existence away from that place where you see them, where they're putting on their best self
Your 'stage' is separate from where we all get tired, hungry, lazy, hurried and even leave our socks on the floor. We get wrinkles.
Fantasies are wonderful indeed, however, fantasies fail to see the person in the mirror that's not 25 anymore while judging that one that's your age that looks your age.
Again... My Grandparents, loved each other in struggles through the great depression, absence during war, rearing a lot of children, illnesses and in the end, one stayed the other's side day and night, at home, month after month, until breathing ceased, and eyes were silenced. TRUE love is not a fantasy to find, not a thing that finds you in one moment. It is a choice that we make... Every day.n (whatever that is)... It is a HEALTHY Body. Healthy body is a Functional body.