Jacqueline Kowert The Many Faces of My Cheating Wife

I'm sorry to see what you have gone through, I imagine it must have been a difficult and heartbreaking experience. I hope you will be able to erase the pain and fall in love with a woman more deserving of your love and attention.

It is better to have love and lost than to have lived with the psycho forever.

I'm sorry to hear that. It is heart breaking discovering your wife isnt what you thought she was. But look on the bright side, you didnt waste your whole life with her. And there are plenty of lovely women out there that arent liers and deceivers :)

I am going through the same thing right now but the only problem that I am having is that I can't prove anything. I hate being lied to. I know exactly how you feel. It is very painful. I just miss the way my wife used to be before she changed.

Na, dont have kids. Each time she fell pregnant (or thought she could be) she would fill a hot water bottle full of boing water, and hold it against her stomach for a day to force a miscarriage. She is one really selfish and discusting human being. I always felt sick when I caught her doing this an tried to stop her.

Yea, cheating is bad. But what I think is worse is discovering that she lied to me for years, and that every conversation we had she lied to me. For example, the day she went back to Germany she sent me an email saying she loved me & wanted to be with me forever, 5 minutes later she sends an email to her ex boyfriend saying it was over between me and her. We all make mistakes, but the continual lies make the mistake so much worse.

do you have any kids with this b**ch? if so you may wanna go and have DNA test to see if they're yours. Jus t a word of advice.

Well said nehepyunji. The media also supports this notion that men cheat more than women. I am guessing 99.9% of TV shows/movies with cheating as content depict men as being the ones that do it. When women cheat it's shown as acceptable, look at Carrie in Sex and the City, this is a number one show amongst women and Carrie is the central figure. She totally cheats on her boyfriend and it's shown as acceptable. When a man cheats in TV/movies he is demonized.Same in advertizing.

Good revenge video dude. I notice that she drinks a lot in the pitures. This could be something to do with her nasty hurtful behaviour. I have been in the same boat as you and it's not a nice feeling but try and learn from it and move on. Time will heal your heart and a day will come when you won't think of her very much and when the memories of her pop into your mind you you'll find that they won't hurt. They reckon that 70% of women cheat. They just love playing those games.

Hi, thanks for the advice. Its is good and sensible. The first step for me is to get over the initail shock of it all and then try to move on. We all make mistakes in life, but its how you handle your mistakes which defines the person you really are. My wife made the mistake of adultery, and I can accept that, but its the lying and deceit that really hurts the most. Once again thanks for the advice :) I think only someone who has gone through heart break can truly understand :)

time alone doesn't heal the wounds. emotions need to be processed and time will help you come to terms with each painful thought, with each painful feeling.


that may have been a long read and you may laugh at me for being so concerned. i only have good will offering all these. it's now up to you to take steps.

ones.we can borrow strength from them as embarrassing as it may be for a man to admit that. :) if your current girl doesn't understand then someone would. you just need to be patient, she will come around.
4. it also helps to seek professional counseling to help you thresh out all the pains, understand why you feel what you are feeling and why it happened.

you'd be surprise how wonderful the relationship may be if you are only open and honest about your feelings.men are not known to talk so much about what they are feeling cos society has moulded us to be "strong" and "independent" but sometimes when it really is suffocating, we need to let it out of our chests and the woman in our lives is the best person to share it with.they understand. surprisingly, we always regard them as naggers and demanding but when things are tough they are the stronger

2. acknowledge that you also had faults in the relationship and resolve to try not to commit the same mistakes again in your next relationship, then forgive yourself once again. later when you are ready, forgive her. but forgive yourself first.
3. if you are seeing someone now and you know she's worth the risk but you are afraid that you'd be hurt again, stop that thought right now. this new girl is not your wife. confide in her. let her help you go through this challenging phase in your life.

This may be unsolicited but i'd like to offer you some suggestions if you won't take it badly. I've been in the same boat myself and I really feel for you. I managed to pull through life because of the following principles:
1. learn to forgive yourself. it is not your fault that she cheated. it was HER decision to cheat whether you treated her well or not.